Friday, November 9, 2007
in light of the nickname war on
MSN yesterday or something, i have a lot to say here.
firstly, what goes around, comes around. when words leave the mouth, there isn't an unspoken agreement that it stays within the four walls or 100cm radius. and especially when different versions of the same story gets out, the pieces are bound to come together. yeah, we're girls, sue us for gossiping and being bitchy. (
muhahahaha!) but i just can't figure how people can lie without a back-up plan. just words thrown out without thinking of the consequences of backfiring. and those are at the expense of ruining
someone's image for the boost of their own. yep, like telling people that someone is chasing after them, which in reality it's the other way round. or asking for opinions from one person and smashing it into pieces behind their back. ouch!
next is verbal VS non-verbal cues. we are living in a high-context culture and that non-verbal cues play a huge importance. tone, gestures, play of words, body language,
oculesics etc etc etc. but sadly, the teacher spent about 3 lectures to elaborate about non-verbal cues but i guess i feel sorry for her as her words failed on some people. or perhaps that these people choose to ignore the non-verbal cues, yep, trying to survive desperately using a low-context culture in a high-context culture. and just because people talk to them doesn't mean that they are 'well-liked'. for the love of humanity, humans adapt to environment, NOT CHANGE ENVIRONMENT TO BENEFIT THEM! and seriously, people like Muhammad and Confucius preach using convincing words, not using words like 'DIE' and 'YOU PEOPLE' and with the aggressive tone. yep, it'll make people hate them more then listen to them. frankly, if we are still living in the era of swords and shields, i would have bashed up that person. or
i'll gather a whole gang and exile this person into the Kalahari desert with nothing more than a toothbrush and a pack of sherbet lemon (adapted from Johnny English) HEY! THAT'S EXACTLY WHAT I'LL DO! (adapted from nightmare before
Christmas, Jack's obsession)
Oh yea, sometimes
wikipedia is a good avenue, not just getting info for
english essays and history reports and communication portfolio entries, and information of Ninjas and
Espadas. there are a lot of info about non-verbal cues which are pretty UNIVERSAL. so sometimes, let's not lose our heads in thinking that the non-verbal cues means something ELSE other than the real meaning that it is conveying. (smiles even more nicely)
filtration is a process of separating things from each other which has been mixed. sometimes filtration is bad because good and bad things are filtered off, and retain those that people want to hear. well, i get the idea that people like to hear nice things (in their own interpretation of what is nice), but truth is, 'the truth hurts'. yep, and makes it sound like it is a bad comment. but trying to force someone to tell them What They Want To Hear? ouch, that's so '
buay hiao bai'. but well, if you want it,
i'll give it, although it turns out as a lie from my part. (and i get to blame for it at the end) and well, that brings me to the whole issue of 'don't blame me for not telling you that'. but sometimes, it'll take more than just a smack of truth in these people's face for the ultimate realisation.
doing things in their own way, dominating conversations, is that the proper way to make a good impression??? wow, i didn't know the world changed in that direction?!??! (shocked face)
omg, this is serious, but well, judging from my environment, people tend to adopt the traditional way of getting to know people before releasing 'top-secret/private' information. frankly, i think saying more than what they should is a sure-thing
guaranteed way to destruction of impressions. (
nodds)
"Consistency!!!" cried the two little Flanders, while their father looked at them proudly.
"Thanks, losers..." Bart
Simpsons muttered.
well, truth to be told, consistency is rather important, together with truth, and all that stuff. saying that you are nice, and treating only ONE person nicely because that person appeals to you, isn't nice at all,
don'tcha think? frankly, i think guys would agree with me that to win a girl's heart, he must first get the support of her friends. and seriously, girls (not willing to use that word but...) gossip, and especially in a small clique when we first start out from school. and the thing is, if we don't like this guy, who 'threaten us with death', 'doesn't mind sacrificing friendships to win that girl', would we even Recommend him to her? let alone try to help them get together.... (oh please look)
tsk tsk tsk... and also 'pledging commitment' on one end, and 'despise commitment'. ouch ouch ouch. talk about inconsistency. frankly, words come to me and i pop them like bubbles. but when it concerns me, like when
i'm in a rumor
spreaded by this person about something absolutely opposite of the truth, 'for you last meal, you're gonna eat those words.' (adapted from Lion King 1 1/2
Hakuna Matata)
"do what a bull does in adversity; charge"
and frankly you'll fall into a bottomless chasm, or into a the Great Wall of China. (laughs like a maniac)
forget it,
i'm too tired. i want to get back to
Naruto. he is more interesting than this issue seriously.
